Hello lovely one.
How are you?
I really, seriously mean that. How are you?
If you're feeling a little like things are a bit much lately and you can't seem to get on top of that to-do list, then I've got some gentle, easy to implement tips for you.
And please don't think you're alone!
I'm not immune to it and I speak to quite a few people who say the same, so it's a collective topic. How could it not be with our fast paced, busy glorifying culture...
I wanted to share my top tips for how to manage it, but first, can I ask you these questions? Just take a moment to think about:
How do you manage the overwhelm?
How does it feel for you?
Where do you feel the overwhelm in your body?
How does the overwhelm manifest into actions – anger, frustration, withdrawal, tears, silence?
Take note of these thoughts and feelings and then use the following strategies, in the best way for you, to help you come back to being you:
1. Stop and some take deep breaths – right down deep into your belly.
Close your eyes, unclench your jaw, drop your shoulders. Inhale in through your nose and let that breath expand your belly – not your lungs. Exhale out through your mouth and release what is no longer serving you.
Breathe in love and stillness, breathe out the overwhelm
2. Label it as a feeling and not a part of who you are.
e.g. I’m feeling the overwhelm rather than I’m overwhelmed. It helps us to begin separating ourselves from the feeling. It is not who we are it is just one of the many feeling we experience.
You can do this with all feelings, the anger, the anxiety, the fear etc.
3. Acknowledge and accept it!
Spend a few minutes connecting with yourself through mediation. Take away it’s power by naming it, let it be felt, let it out. By trying to banish it, or ignore it, we aren’t actually releasing it, we are just surpressing it. This can cause the overwhelm to grow bigger and bigger within us until we get to breaking point and we explode.
How can you acknowledge, accept and release its hold?
By simply saying to yourself, or out loud:
“I’m feeling the overwhelm. And I am choosing to acknowledge, accept and release the overwhelm.”
Sit with that feeling for a few minutes, let it wash over you, notice where in your body you’re feeling it and what it feels like.
Let your body feel!
Allow your body to let it pass, release the shame surrounding the overwhelm. By acknowledging, feeling and then releasing the overwhelm (or any other emotion) we make space for other feelings to be felt.
4. Change your energy
This one will be different for everyone – but do something that makes you feel happy and relaxed.
For some it’s a swim, doing some yoga, going for a walk around the block, making a tea, journaling down your thoughts and feelings, popping you favourite oils on, cleaning, chatting to a friend, watching an episode of F.R.I.E.N.D.S. Just do whatever makes you smile!
By taking time doing the things we enjoy, we are making room for the light to come into our world.
It creates clarity and you’ll be amazed at what can come through for you, in terms of inspiration, motivation and clearness of mind when we take a breather from what has been consuming us.
5. Lighten your load.
It’s time to take some items off the to-do list!
If you can’t delegate some of them, then start by knocking over a couple of the easy ones (even if they’re not a top priority). Seeing these tasks being ticked off will feel like you're making progress and will shorten the list at the same time. Yay!
6. Be kind to your beautiful mind
A lot of the time we can get overwhelmed because we feel we “should” (I will write another post just about this one word and how counter-productive it is) be able to do everything without any help from anyone and then we feel bad that we haven’t been able to do all of the things within some unrealistic timeframe.
Please, channel Elsa (yes, my girls have recently discovered frozen) and...
Let it go!
No-one can do it all!
Find a mantra or affirmation, that gels with you, to repeat to yourself or to stick on the mirror. Something like...
"I am enough"
"I am doing a great job"
"I am supported and can ask for help"
Loise Hay is the affirmation guru, so you can find your own one here.
Beauty, you've got this. Just remember that you are doing the best you can and that is more than enough! However if things are really bad, and you really don't feel you've got this, please know that you can always call Lifeline on 13 11 14 for 24/7 anonymous support.
I'd love to know what affirmation you picked and which way you find best help you change your energy.